Dating a Co-worker – Good or Bad?

In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a co-worker. The reason why this happens is that many young professional men and women are spending almost all their time at the office, so they have less time to go out and meet new people. So, it is natural to seek friendship and companionship from colleagues.

But for many times, this friendship transform into a relationship that in most of the cases fail. There are many risks that make this very difficult to maintain. But not many people know about this before they start a relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all your time in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should take a closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could be associated with this new career move.

There are some aspects that you should take in consideration:

-Before you ask your co-worker for a possible date, check if your company has an employee dating policy; the company may have strict rules about any relationship that forum between you two; also think about how much you are wiling to risk your career for this relationship from the beginning

-If you didn’t ask her for a date already, and don’t know how to do it, you may organize a group outing or event and invite her; but if she refuse, you have to think at something else; suggest something casual like dinner or movie

-Before ask her for a date, make sure that you know as much as you can about her; so develop an office relationship before you develop a romantic one

-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn’t work; will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day, to interact her daily? It may be very difficult to re-establish a professional demeanor with a person

-At final one of you have to leave this job because thing’s don’t work out or because it’s against the company policy to date fellow employees

-Or worst, you don’t know what your partner is capable to do if things don’t work between you two, it may be ruining your career

-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, if you are unable to differentiate between work and pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work, you have to set up relationship rules for the workplace

-Avoid signs of affection in public such as hand holding, kisses, flirting; you’d better meet off-site for lunch or after program hours

-It is true that you have a lot in common, that you will go with pleasure every morning at the office anxious to see her, and it is a person with who you will always have what to speak about;

-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; she may be a great help; but, there are more negatives aspects about this kinds of relationships

-Remember that you have to maintain a professional image, so don’t let your relationship affect your performance; if your romance is affecting your work, you may be asked to end your relationship or to find another job

-A relationship like this can create problems in your promotion; the boss may see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work

-Develop open communication, if you are dating with a co-worker think about the fact that you have to have two different types of relationships, business and romantic, with the same person;

-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from certain conversations, will not discuss anymore with you about privacy

-If you spend more and more time with her during the office hours, the more and more you will distance yourself from your associates, those you’ve developed personal relationships with;

-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it secret; it will need a lot of discretion, energy and effort to keep your office romance just between you two; so don’t tell your colleagues about your romance because your both work will be definitely affected

-Also avoid sending electronic love messages or letters because some companies prohibit the use of company e-mails system for personal use,  others reserves the right to access or disclose electronic messages or files of an employee

-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual boring office lunch, you can have part of one full of flirting

As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I suggest you to think very well if you really want to get into a relationship that may affect your career and if you are ready to do this. As I said, it may be very difficult to make it work. But, it remains at your choice what you are going to do.

Office Romance Rules for Dating Co-Workers

If you’re like every other workingwoman (or man) who is dedicated and hard working, your commitment to work makes it nearly impossible to meet anyone outside of work. You’re probably not just a nine to five worker – you’re that successful someone who works extra hours and weekends, and is trying to get ahead to be successful. And you know what that makes you? Sexy!

Both men and women are attracted to people who are confident, passionate and focused, with interests and areas of expertise. Who wouldn’t be?  Think about it-and there isn’t an easier, simpler or more convenient place to meet them than at work.

Date at Work – But Work at Dating

Even though it’s often advised against, dating people you work with makes practical sense – after all, we spend so much of our lives in the office, there’s often no other way or time to meet anyone else. But you have to be extra smart about your choices, and take special precautions if you’re going to venture into an office romance.

Water Cooler Gossip

The one overriding warning worth heeding–the one that should dictate all of your actions and words–is this: People talk. No matter how friendly your co-workers are, or how tight-lipped the object of your affection seems, secrets are almost always spilled, one way or another, whether accidentally or intentionally. Translation? Say nothing and do nothing that you do not want everyone else to know about. This means no chit-chat with the girls at the water cooler about his size or performance, and no pillow talk with him about how much you loathe your boss, and can’t wait to take over his or her job. There’s too much at stake, like your livelihood to take risks, and there’s too much to lose, like a potentially great love, not to give it a shot.

The Rules About Dating Co-Workers

1. Don’t mix business and pleasure on company time. Agree to date out of work hours, but don’t turn a business lunch into a romantic lunch.

2. If you’re a supervisor or employer you must stay fair. Don’t give someone you’re dating better work or pay, and don’t punish someone you’re breaking up with by giving him or her worse work or pay. Otherwise, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a lawsuit.

3. Make sure he or she is actually single. If they’re not — then keep personal remarks at work limited to sports, the weather and the kids. Don’t gripe or listen to gripes about a spouse. “I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable talking about your wife. I want to keep our relationship all business because I value us as co-workers,” is all you need to say and do.

4. Don’t Boast. Your co-worker boyfriend or girlfriend may look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, and you may be so pumped up that you’ve got a hot date with the hottie — but keep your feelings to yourself — and your friends outside of work. Work gossip is inevitable, but you must practice good behavior by keeping the water cooler talk to work and the weather.

5. Don’t Make Out At Work. Keep all affection outside of office parameters. It’s okay to meet at the office, but don’t smooch at the office.

6. Don’t Have Love Spats At Work. If things weren’t great the night before, don’t bring your disappointment to your staff meetings — no pun intended. You will have to practice wearing two hats — even if you’re mad, don’t put the kabosh on their comments at the Monday morning meeting and act out your frustrations at work.

7. Do Put Rumors To Rest. If you hear gossip, don’t fuel the fire by denying the truth. Everyone finds out that you’re dating eventually. While you should not announce your relationship, you can say, “Yes, we’re dating. We’re both single adults and we’re working very hard to keep our social life separate from our work life.” And smile.

Both dating and working are natural parts of life, and it’s natural to become attracted to people you work with. If you’re both single and available, go for it! But be impeccable with your behavior and your work. You’re going to be under more scrutiny in this relationship than you would be if you were dating someone you didn’t work with.